I’m a Techie, But My Wife Just Schooled Me on AI

The Real Question Isn't 'Can AI Help?'

My wife's skepticism isn't stubbornness. It's clarity. She's not afraid of technology. She's protecting the things that work for her.

When she spends an hour looking at hotels or AirBnBs in Rocky Mountain National Park or reading through her favorite chef's new cookbook, that's not wasted time. That's her hobby. Her version of fun. The tech enthusiast mistake is assuming everyone wants to automate everything.

Techies see a task and immediately think: how can #RANDOM_LATEST_TECH make this faster? (Note to techies reading this: let's admit that we will gladly spend three weeks automating a task just to save three seconds of actual work because it's cool. I see you, Sam.)

But some things aren't supposed to be faster. Travel planning for her is discovery. Meal planning and recipe hunting is creative exploration. These aren't problems to solve.

So here's the actual question: Can AI handle the stuff she doesn't want to do, so she has more time for the stuff she does?

That's different. And the answer is yes.

Start With the Stuff That Annoys You

In January we had a big snowstorm coming. I needed to prepare my generator, but the battery was dead. I hooked up a battery charger, and it started blinking red and green lights. No idea what that meant.

In the old world, I'd dig through a drawer looking for a manual I probably threw away. Or I'd spend 20 minutes on a forum where three people give contradicting advice and one guy tells me I'm an idiot.

Instead, I took a picture of the blinking lights and asked AI what was happening. 45 seconds later I had the answer: the terminals weren't making good contact. I cleaned them. Problem solved.

That's not replacing a hobby. That's eliminating friction (and freeing me up to solve other pending winter storm issues).

My wife mentioned she could see using AI for sympathy card ideas, light medical research or proofreading. Perfect. Those are tasks, not joys. Nobody loves looking up side effects of medications or triple-checking an email for typos. But you have to do them, and they take mental energy.

The principle is simple: AI for friction, not for fun. Let it handle the appointment reminders, the 'where did I put that receipt' searches, the 'I need an answer but don't want to call someone or fall down a Google hole' moments. Keep the good stuff for yourself.

You don't need AI to automate your life. You need AI to eliminate the annoying stuff so you have more time for what actually matters.

What's Coming: An Assistant That Actually Knows You

Right now, most people use AI by opening a website, asking a question, and getting an answer. That's helpful. But it's still you doing the remembering, the asking, the managing. It's Google search on steroids.

What's coming is different. An assistant that works for you, not just with you.

Imagine this: You've been cooking recipes from the same three chefs for years. You love their style. An AI assistant that knows you doesn't suggest random recipes. It learns what you like about those chefs and finds new recipes that match that same flavor profile or ease of preparation. It also knows your workout regiment and your health goals, so it avoids the recipes that could tank your plans. Not because you asked. Because it's paying attention.

For my wife specifically, picture this: An assistant that knows our dogs are due for their checkups and puts it on the calendar. That notices she hasn't seen her friend Karen in two months and suggests a coffee date. That realizes her dad has a medical procedure tomorrow and reminds her to check in. That tracks which exercise routines she actually sticks with and stops suggesting yoga when she clearly prefers pilates.

The breakthrough isn't the assistant doing everything. It's the assistant handling the background noise so that she has more space for what matters. It remembers her preferences. It takes care of the boring logistics. It shows up exactly when needed and stays quiet the rest of the time.

Not creepy. Not chatty. Just there.

How to Start (Without Overthinking It)

You don't need to become a tech person. You need to pick one annoying task this week. The thing you've been putting off. The errand that feels like friction.

Try AI for that. Not for your hobbies. For the boring stuff.

Draft that email you don't know how to start. Get an answer to the insurance question you keep forgetting to Google. Find the best price on dog food without clicking through five websites. Subscribe to my newsletter without knowing how.

Don't optimize what you love. Optimize the junk that's in the way of what you love.

In a year, having a personal AI assistant is going to feel as normal as having a smartphone. (Witness how Siri is finally becoming personal in OS 27.) The people who start experimenting now won't be ahead because they're tech geniuses. They'll be ahead because they gave themselves a head start on the learning curve.

My wife doesn't need to get excited about AI. But when her AIssistant books flights to see our kids at the lowest prices, suggests a new chef based on her favorite cooking styles, and handles the vet paperwork for the dogs - all without her lifting a finger - she'll have more time for the travel research she genuinely enjoys.

Oh, and spending time with me.

That's not science fiction. That's next year.

And the best way to be ready? Start small. Start now. Start with the stuff that annoys you.

About the Author

Steve Chazin makes AI make sense. After three decades leading tech teams at companies like Apple and Salesforce, he's on a mission to show regular people how to use AI without fear or confusion. No hype. No doom. Welcome to the Digital RenAIssance and AI for the Rest of Us.

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